Ramblings of a Sleep Deprived Mommy

Saturday, February 20, 2010

Remember how I was just bragging to ya'll that our precious angel had slept through the night? Well, I spoke a little too soon. She has reverted back this week to the sleep schedule of a three week old and it's been a long and exhausting week!!! There are so many issues contributing to this problem that I don't know where our biggest issue lies. First, we moved her to the crib on Sunday. We were sad to do it but it was time. We had been putting it off for weeks as it was. We decided since she was sleeping so well lately. I imagine the transition to the crib is always hard but I didn't realize it would be this hard. She no longer has her 4 - 7 hour sleep stretches at night anymore, she is religiously waking up every three hours, if not less, to eat. Ugh! I don't know if it's because she is not comfortable sleeping her crib yet so she isn't having a sound sleep or what. Our second issue is just trying to get her to bed!!!! Just this week she has started to cluster feed and will literally eat from 8pm to 10pm and then she is ready to eat again at 11pm. She STILL has her fussy time around 10pm-12am, however, more recently it's been until 1am. She didn't even get to bed until 2am last night! Most Mom's I speak to say their baby's fussy time is around dinnertime, not our baby! We have the worst fussy time period ever because it makes it impossible to have any kind of a bedtime routine. We have tried the bath/feed/book/sleep routine starting at 9pm but it always gets sabotaged by the "witching hour" which is around the time we finish up the feed. Not to mention the new clusterfeeding schedule she has started this week has made it next to impossible to try any kind of a routine since she wants to eat from 8pm-10pm. After all of the late night craziness, she doesn't fall asleep now until around 1am. This very late bedtime segues into our third issue. Since she goes to bed so late, she sleeps way too much during the day, especially the morning. She will wake up at 7am to eat and barely makes it five minutes on the first side before she is completely passed out. I try to wake her and it's impossible. Why can't she be like this at night? You put her down and you walk on eggshells trying not to wake her. I try changing her diaper to wake her up a bit and then try feeding her on the other side. Five minutes later she is passed out again. So basically her morning feeding is pretty much a "snack". This causes other problems because I think it's sending "the girls" the wrong message and so I am afraid my milk supply is decreasing. I have started to pump now after her "snack" until hopefully this issue has resolved itself. We really need to turn her schedule around but just don't know where to start because of her fussy time. I pray it resolves itself soon or she may be going back to the pack n play just for my sanity just to resolve one of these issues!!! The third issue is that she is having a love/hate relationship with the swaddle at bedtime. We think she is almost done with it but there are times when she still wants it. We put her to bed with it, but she will start to kick herself out of it which wakes herself up. Then she is up and we have to give her the pacifier or start up her seahorse to calm her again. Every time I go to get her for a feeding, she is usually out of the swaddle by then. I really don't think she is a fan of the sleep sacks yet, we have tried to put her in one of those instead of the swaddle and I don't think she likes that her legs aren't free. I feel like horrible Mom for getting so mad and frustrated with her but you feel so helpless and tired. I am just at my wits end about it. Jeff has tried to help out as much as possible at night but the poor guy has to go to work in the morning. He actually stepped in last night and stayed up to try to get her to sleep. He also took her downstairs this morning so I could try to catch up on my rest. I am still exhausted, sometimes power naps do more harm than good and just leave you feeling groggy. That is where I am at right now, a very groggy Mommmy.

Here is a picture of my sweet girl since I hate posts with no pictures! How can I be mad at this face? She turns two months old tomorrow which is just so hard from me to believe!

10 comments:

  1. I started reading your blog not too long ago, but I completely understand your frustration and exhaustion over these sleep issues! I remember those hard nights with our daughter and they are very far from fun! Hang in there! I know you aren't asking for advice, but I think we started putting our daughter to bed earlier to try to help with this. Maybe that would help, start the routine much earlier and see if she will sleep more through during the night instead of the day. Not sure...But..do know that it will get easier! It's hard being exhausted, so please know you are not alone! AND...your daughter is just beautiful!! :) You are a wonderful mother even when you don't feel like it!

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  2. I'm in the same boat as you. STTN for about 2 days and now we are back up every four hours. Unfortunately our LO seems to be colic-y as well. And I do agree sometimes power naps are worse. To make matters worse I go back to work in a week. Hang in there you aren't alone!

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  3. Can I offer a little advice too? =) I agree with Ashley- try moving up her bedtime routine slowly to about 7 o clock. I read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child like it was my Bible when Cameron was her age- and there are a lot of good points to take from that book. I don't want to sound like a doc, or diagnose your child, but it sounds like her witching hour being so late is probably a result of being completely overtired. By 10, since she isn't asleep already, her body is pretty much telling itself it doesn't need sleep- and that's probably why she is fighting it and you are having a tough time getting her down. If you start her bedtime routine at 9, I'd try moving it up 30 minutes every 2 days or so until you've reached a good time that works for all 3 of you. For us, that time was 6:30. It seemed really early, but it was also nice to have some alone/adult time in the evenings with the Hubby.
    Good luck- and I know it can be so frustrating, so HANG IN THERE! =)

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  4. We started Emerson in her crib about that time maybe a little earlier! And she has always been really good at going down for bedtime (she just wouldn't stay down longer than two hours:) I feel your pain and I wish I could help! I can tell you that I let Emerson cry it out at 4 months and that has been the best thing I have EVER done!! We both sleep so much better now!! And it wasn't as bad as you think! You go in there often to comfort them but you just don't pick them up of talk to them! Good luck, I will be praying for you!!

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  5. HI Karen! I just started reading your blog this week! I was balling my eyes out at your birth story and everything you guys went thru, but I am glad Jillian is healthy! I love the sleep books, too. Healthy Sleep Habits has been on my nightstand since my 3 year old was born, and now I'm re-reading it... we are not sleeping thru the night either yet! Also, ours is wiggling out of the swaddle, but won't sleep well without it, so I started the one arm swaddle today, leaving one arm out -- I never heard of this, but my cousin is doing it with her 5 month old and it seems to be working! Good Luck! I noticed a big difference in sleeping around 3 months... hope you do too! ~Heather

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  6. Hang in there! Those first few months are rough for sure. You both will get it all figured out soon. In the meantime, I agree with the others - I would try putting her to bed earlier to try to avoid the witching hour. Also, as crazy as it sounds, try to to get her to fall asleep on her own (put her down awake). IMO, this is best thing you can do to create good sleep habits for baby. It probably won't work for a while, but it doesn't hurt to start trying. Also, what about trying a sleep sack (ie. Halo brand) in place of the swaddle? My kids hated the swaddle, but I felt like the sacks kept them nice & cozy, especially in the winter. Oh and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child is awesome! Hang in there!!

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  7. I agree. . . move her bed time to 7. I know it seems early but it is a life saver for us. I'm also a firm believer of putting your child to bed awake. As soon as I see Landry rubbing her eyes, she goes to bed. It will be hard at first, but so worth it. Babies need to learn how to self-soothe. I didn't do this with my 4 yr old and she still has a hard time falling asleep on her own. Try the sleep sacks...most babies don't like to be swaddled after about 2 months. They need to explore with their hands. Good luck!

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  8. I can't believe our babies will be 2 months old! We have still been getting up AT LEAST 2-3 times at night & he has been in his crib since 2 weeks old. He does really well in his crib & his monitor picks up everything. I'm not pumping anymore & were just doing formula, so maybe that makes things a little easier, but we are still very tired! I'm looking forward to the day he will sleep through the night, ha!

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  9. In my (very limited) experience I think that Leslie is right -- having an earlier bedtime might help a lot. Asher was very fussy late at night until I moved his bedtime up. Going to bed earlier actually helps him sleep longer! Now he starts with a bath at 7:30, eats from 8-8:30 and is asleep by 9. He sleeps until 6am! We're slowly still moving his bedtime up -- we'll see what happens!

    Now I just need to get him to nap in his crib during the day... :o)

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  10. I remember those nights!!! Hang in there! It gets better........PROMISE! Maybe move her bedtime to 7. She is just precious!!

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