Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Life of a Stay At Home Mom Series {Day 2}: Flip Flops & Pearls

Hi there and welcome to Day 2 of the Life of a Stay {At} Home Mom Guest Blogging Series!!! If you are just joining our Life of a Stay {At} Home Mom Series, welcome! Miss a post? You can find all the entries for our series listed conveniently for you here.
I am so excited to introduce Daphne today from Flip Flops and Pearls.  Daphne is probably one of the happiest and funnest Bloggers I know.  She hosts two Linky Parties, Home Tour Tuesdays and Let's Eat!  If you are ever looking for a fun and upbeat blog to read, I highly suggest you follow Flip Flops and Pearls!!!   I am so happy to have Daphne with us today and really appreciate her taking the time to give us a glimpse into her life as a stay at home Mom.


Hey Y'all! I am Daphne author of Flip Flops and Pearls. I am so excited to be able share a little glimpse into my personal life. My public blog revolves around shopping, cooking & decorating. I have a private family blog. One talks about decorating bathrooms while the other talks about cleaning bathrooms :)

I am so blessed as I have been a stay at home mom for the past 19 years! I have a son that will be a senior this year and my daughter is a freshman. I have been married to my best friend for 18 years!

1. Biggest reward of being a SHAM-

WOW, this is a hard one to wrap into a short answer. (nothing about me is short but me height!)

Time: I'd start with being able to spend ALL of my time with my children. Before long they will be grown and I will not be able to get back that time. You only have one chance to be Mom & train them in the way you want them to be. I feel that being at work or a 24/7 socialite, doesn't give you the opportunity to do so. (I know some ppl have to work but I know many who "choose" career b/c they enjoy their lifestyle).

No money can replace time. After homeschooling for 4 years, I thought I'd die when they went back into the school system. I love my kids and I love spending time with them. We traveled the world over with my husband. These are memories that I hold so dear to my heart.

2. Biggest reward for your family having you as a SHAM-

A few major rewards that pop into my head:

knowing that when my kids drive up from school, I am home. They know this. I have the entire day for "me". They are home, it's "our" time.

Dinner is usually going, (they won't eat school food) unless it's Mexican Thursday.

My kids always know that if they need anything while at school, friends, etc., all they have to do is call me and I can meet their needs. I don't have to "ask off", I just "take off!"

My kids know that there is always their favorite foods in the fridge that their favorite jeans are clean.

I feel that a great reward of being a SHAM was in that I was able to homeschool them. The lessons they learned at a young age are something that if they were in school & I was working, may not have been instilled into them. (also, they is not many greater rewards than teaching your child to read!)

We are also a very very close family. I feel this has to do with my husbands & my involvement with our children. Homeschooling & living in Marriots w/a cat will do that! Now on the weekends, I have a senior who would rather hang out with his family than at parties. (this makes my heart happy)

3. Do you work from home now or have a side business or craft?

No. No. and No:)

I tried to work out of the house about 2 years ago. I have a friend who opened a high end clothing store. I went to help run the store til it got up and going. I was gone 4 days a week as it was about 4 hours away. I made it 6 months. It about killed my family. I cried every time I left. My kids would call me crying. If my sweet husband called me once a day, he called me 101 times a day. It was a great experience going from ground up but thank Jesus that is o-vah!

I also still dab in photography. I had a business when I lived a the beach. I did beach photography and some commercial. It started out as a hobby & something I loved. Later, it was more work. So, I had to say good-bye. Now I have my passion back and it's just for me!

4. What do you miss about working, if anything?

Seriously, nothing. I am so happy being at home with my family. Maybe getting dressed up! But then, that's what date night is for so..... I am good on that end. Honestly, there is nothing outside of my home that makes me happier than what is inside my home. My husband supplies all my needs (and way over) than any reward from a job.

5. Was it a hard decision to leave the working world?

Absolutely not. It was only 6 months. It was really to help a friend & see what the working world was all about. I'm a very social person but when I have extra time, I'd rather spend it with my husband. It's easy when your best friends. I get sad when I hear my friends talk about their kids/husbands. They want school to last all summer and the men to take business trips. I don't get it. (if I'm wrong, I don't want to be be right!)

6. Do you plan on going back to work or have different career goals?

Happy to say no, this is it. This is my career, being a full time mom & wife. I just had this conversation over the weekend with my Mr. I was thanking him for all his hard work and he said, "You don't have to because you have me". Our plans as of now is that when they kids leave for college, we are going to live on a boat. (preferably an 82' Viking, but who's thinking that far ahead?)

I am so thank that God has blessed me with a husband that doesn't want me to work & wants me with him all the time. It has blessed our family in ways that I can't count and in ways that you can't put a price on. I am so thankful that I am here to share each & every day with my family. When I was growing up, I didn't have this. My mother wasn't fortunate enough to be able to be there for my brother and I, they way I am for mine. It breaks my heart to look/think back. I never had a mom for the field trip or at the school party. Now, I am the mom that drives my kids nuts cause I always want to volunteer!

Thank you Karen, for giving me the opportunity to share my experiences as a SHAM. It's nice to sit back and reflect. This my friends, is the most rewarding job God has ever given a title to, Mom. If you have time, please stop in and say hello!

Be Blessed!



  1. You are definitely a blessing to your husband and family, Daphne! I enjoy following your blog and can attest to the fact that your sincerity shines through. Thanks for sharing your experiences and inspiring others! :)

  2. Besides being one of the sweetest people in the world, Daphne is an amazing example of a wonderful mother, and I know her family adores her! Truly an inspriation!!! xoxoxo

    (Also, so nice to meet you Karen! What a great blog you have!!)

  3. Great to learn more about you Daphne.

  4. What a great series Karen. It is so interesting to see different takes on being a SAHM.

    Daphne - love that I learned a little more about you. I have told you before, it is awesome that you have such a close family and a great relationship with your husband!! You are truly blessed. And please invite me on your 85' Viking!!

  5. What a fabulous post by Daphne! It is so clear how much you adore your family through your writing.

    So glad I found your blog. Looking forward to reading more. ;)


Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment!