Life of a Stay At Home Mom Series {Day 3}: MyGotFam

Wednesday, June 22, 2011



Hi there and welcome to Day 3 of the Life of a Stay {At} Home Mom Guest Blogging Series!!! If you are just joining our Life of a Stay {At} Home Mom Series, welcome! Miss a post? You can find all the entries for our series listed for you here.

I honestly have to say I am blown away so far by all of our amazing Mommy Bloggers.  I am starting to get emotional reading all of your posts!!!  The love and sincerity for what you do is so telling in the words that you write and I can't thank you enough for taking the time out of your busy lives to write about it.  I am truly honored to be a part of this and I hope all of you are enjoying this series as much as I am! 

I am so excited to introduce Chrissy today from MyGotFam.  Chrissy is a fellow Cleveland Mommy Blogger and one that I have gotten to know very well recently.  Our daughters are only a few months apart so I can certainly relate to a lot of what she blogs about!!!  I had a chance to meet Chrissy in real life recently at the Legacy Village Blogger event.  She and I had a blast checking out all of the beautiful accessories at Charming Charlies.   I am so happy to have Chrissy with us today and really appreciate her taking the time to give us a glimpse into her life as a stay at home Mom.

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Hi all!


First, a huge Thank You to Karen for hosting this guest blogging series.

Second, a quick introduction to myself:

I am a stay at home mom (SAHM) of two adorable children. My son is 2.5 years old and his name is Carter.


My daughter just turned 1 and her name is Avery.


I live in a suburb outside of Cleveland Ohio with my husband, two children, and two pets. Itʼs chaos (but mostly the good kind), and I blog about it at http://www.mygotfam.com./

When Karen mentioned that she was looking for some guest posts on “Being a Stay At Home Mom,” I was interested right away. Not because being a SAHM is always perfect and shiny, but because itʼs a topic that I have thought about quite a bit in the last few years.

At first, this was a touchy subject for me. I spent half of my time during the first year as a SAHM loudly defending my choice and feeling judged for deciding to stay home. Iʼm not sure why I felt this way. Looking back, I donʼt think that anyone was necessarily judging me. A few minor comments were made (mostly likely as jokes) by friends of my husband about SAHMʼs sitting on the cough eating bon bons ... and suddenly I felt like my new job had no validity.

Luckily, Iʼm done with that feeling now. I just had to wake up and decide to own my decision. And now I feel very lucky to be able to have made this choice.

And, trust me when I say, it wasnʼt an easy decision to make. In fact, it may have been one of the most difficult decisions my husband and I have made. 

When my husband and I first discussed children, we were always on the fence about whether or not I would stay home with the kids or continue to work. I had a great career as an art director, a ton of career upward movement potential (for lack of a better term), and made a fabulous living. But after a lot of long talks, we made the decision that I would stay home with kids. This decision works for us. But all families are different.
 
The dynamics of no two families are the same, so trust me when I say ...every family has to decide what is best for them ...and own their decision.

And what kind of SAHM you decide to be is up to you too. Some moms (and dads) probably intuitively know how they are/will be with kids. Not me. It took me some time to “come into myself” as a SAHM, since I had always been a career girl. When my son was born, I had no idea what to do every day. I wasnʼt sure what activities would be fun for him, if I could bring him grocery shopping or on errands with me. It was a huge learning curve for me. And so I signed him up for every baby and me class I could find.  We went to music class, reading time at the library, baby gyms, you name it. And slowly... I got the hang of the whole SAHM thing. And then when my daughter wasborn, there was another learning curve on how to be a SAHM to two children. How to get out of the house with two kids (this is MUCH more difficult than it sounds). How to stay busy and not let myself just do the easy things.


Now, I love it. I love coming up with fun/learning activities for my kids (one of the many rewards of being a stay at home is that you get to spend so much time with your kids, but also can guide their education, love of life and love of learning from the start...every single day). I love adventures with them and try to come up with something new for them almost everyday. We cook together, we sing together, we hike, we play, we have a blast. But being a SAHM isnʼt always puppies and clouds. There are insane days when I want to rip my hair out and scream. I certainly have my “grass is greener” moments. You know, the days when Iʼd love to go to work... just to dress up, or stayclean for longer than 20 minutes, or make it through an entire day without someoneelseʼs poop or vomit on me...you know...stuff like that. But those are few and far between...and easily laughed off in the long run.

My husband often calls during the day to say hi and I answer mid-laugh because of something that one of the kids just did. We have a good laugh about it...and he goes on about his day knowing that his kids are having fun, learning and loving life. This is (in his opinion) one of the biggest rewards of me being at home with the kids.

I do still work on the side on occasion. Freelance design work here or there, and I do think I would like to involve myself in social media more and more as the kids get older - so that I can keep my resume somewhat active (thus maybe be employable again (one of my biggest concerns)).

But for now, itʼs one fun day at a time. Some stinky-poo-covered days...but fun none the less!

2 comments:

  1. I think we should have a play date for all the Cleveland mommy-bloggers Karen knows! Thanks for this series!!

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  2. Nice to "meet" you Chrissy. I'm a cleveland mommy blogger as well. Am heading over to check your blog- your kids are adorable!

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