Hi there and welcome to Day 1 of the Life of a Stay At Home Mom Guest Blogging Series!!! I am so excited to kick off our series with Kodi from BeVelle Boulevard. I believe I first met Kodi on Twitter, she is one of the most supportive Mom's out there. You will have to read her Blog post on the "Working vs SAHM Mom debate". Kodi has experienced both sides and her perspective was so refreshing to read. I am so happy to have Kodi with us today and really appreciate her taking the time to give us a glimpse into her life as a stay at home Mom.
Hi Karen at Home readers! I'm Kodi BeVelle and I blog over at BeVelle Boulevard. I am a stay-at-home mom to my two little guys- Manning (19 months) and Deacon (4 months) and wife to Nathan.
This is still the only picture I have of all four of us- perk of always being behind the camera.
I have only been a stay-at-home mom since Deacon's birth, so I have known both the sides of being a working mom and a stay-at-home mom. The biggest reward of being a stay-at-home mom is the time I'm able to spend with my boys. Duh. haha But seriously, when I was working I commuted to my job, so I would get home from work around 6 PM and Manning went to bed around 7 PM. One hour in the evening was the only time I spent with him, and in that one hour we had to eat dinner, take a bath, read a book, say our prayers and off to bed. It wasn't quality time and it was breaking my heart.
For our family as a whole, the biggest challenge of me staying home is the financial burden. My husband is in the military and he's in the process of changing from the National Guard to the full-time Army. Some things happened and while we were counting on his pay increasing as soon as I was staying home, it still hasn't happened. He will be full time as of June 30 though, so that's a huge relief!
Personally, my biggest challenge is feeling a sense of accomplishment. Some days staying home feels like Groundhog Day. With two children under the age of two, even the simplest tasks are difficult, so many days it's easier to stay home than go anywhere. It becomes really easy to stay home in pajamas, lay around all day, and do it all again the next day. I'm still learning that I need to keep a schedule as though I were working a typical job. I try to leave the house at least three days a week, which means we have to get dressed! :) Some days we just go to Target or Chick-Fil-A, and others we have actual plans! With real live people!
While I consider my #1 job to be mama, I do have a few things I do on the side. I have an etsy shop, kodimade, but I haven't had the time I'd like to devote to it. I am now a thirty-one consultant, which I'm SUPER excited about. I can "work" while Nathan is home with the boys, and I can be a full-time stay-at-home mom. Plus, the job is perfect for me. I get awesome products for free or huge discounts, and I get to hang out with a bunch of ladies and have adult conversation, while I get PAID for it! Here's a little secret that I haven't mentioned to anyone yet- I plan on a little thirty-one giveaway on my blog SOON so follow to be one of the first to know!
You might be wondering if there's anything I miss about working. No judgies- but as silly as it sounds- I miss dressing up for work. I always had fun wearing cute outfits and accessories. Now, even if I dress up in a cute outfit, a lot of times no one even sees me! Or it's just my husband who thinks I'm sexiest in sweats and no make-up anyway! I've contemplated linking up with the Pleated Poppy's What I Wore Wednesday where she challenges SAHM's to dress cute daily and share their pics weekly on a blog link-up!
For my husband and I it was kind of a given once we found out about our *surprise* Deacon that I would stay home. The daycare rate for two children under two, combined with the commute I was facing and the fact that Nathan is military so I'm sometimes a single parent, it just wasn't feasible for me to even consider going back to the job I was currently in. I also just finished my MBA in May, so I knew being a student with two children was enough to keep me busy!
I never thought I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, until I had a baby. I've always dreamt of having an important job outside of the home. Nathan and I even talked when we were first married about me supporting the family and him being a stay-at-home dad someday, but as soon as I had Manning, my heart flipped. I shed so many tears about the fact that I wasn't going to be able to stay home with him. Thankfully, through our church, we learned about a young stay-at-home mom who was looking to babysit one child in her home. Nathan and I met with her one evening, and it was immediately clear that she was an answered prayer.
All in all, I feel very blessed to be a stay-at-home mom. It is a challenging and rewarding job.
I recently blogged about the contest between working moms and stay-at-home moms, and I'd love to hear what y'all think about it as well!
Thank you so much for inviting me to guest post Karen, and thank you for reading!