Tuesday, July 05, 2011

Life of a SAHM Series {Day 16}: Hines - Sight Blog

Hi there and welcome to Day 16 of the Life of a Stay {At} Home Mom Guest Blogging Series!!! If you are just joining our Life of a Stay {At} Home Mom Series, welcome! Miss a post? You can find all the entries for our series listed for you here.

I am sad to say that this our last guest blogger in our series.  What an amazing group of Bloggers we had here these past two weeks!  I have learned so much from these amazing Mom's and I am truly humbled that you wanted to share in this experience with me.  I also want to extend a HUGE thank you for writing such honest and heartwarming posts.  As Mom's, we can all agree how precious our blog writing time is and I am honored that you devoted your time towards this series.

I am so excited to introduce Leigh today from Hines-Sight Blog.   Leigh is not just an amazing Blogger, but she is also a dear friend of mine.  It's only been a few months since I came across her blog, however, I feel like we have known each other for years.  Not only is Leigh one of the nicest bloggers I know, but she also loves Myrtle Beach!!!  That is a BFF quality right there!:)  Please join me in giving Leigh a warm welcome!!!!


I’m very honored to be part of Karen At Home’s Stay-At-Home-Mom series. Karen and I discovered each other several months ago when I started blogging.  Even though we’ve never met, I feel as if I’ve known her for a long time. It’s my pleasure to be able to tell you a little more about my experience as a stay-at-home mom.

I’ve been owner of the Hines-Sight Blog for just a few short months, but have been a stay-at-home mom for over five years now. I can’t believe how quickly the time has passed. It seems like yesterday that I carried a five pound-eleven ounce baby boy home from the hospital. He’s blossomed into a bright, curious, very loud and energetic boy who gets even louder if he feels his baby sister is getting all the attention.

We were blessed to add my daughter to the family 19-months ago. She’s a joy, but I do have to admit that the job of being a stay-at-home mom seems more difficult when you add another one to the mix.

Some days I’m more mentally drained than others, but when it is all said and done, I wouldn’t change a thing. Being a stay-at-home mom is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever done, but it is also one of the most rewarding jobs I’ve ever done.

Let’s backtrack a little! I experienced the joys of motherhood a little later in life. You could translate that into meaning that I had many years with the luxury of having all the time in the world at my fingertips, but since I didn’t have children, I didn’t know I had all the time in the world. There are days where I wish I could get some of that time back.  With all that time on my hands, it still took me awhile to meet Mr. Right. I didn’t marry until I was 33, and my son was born three days after I turned 37.

So, yes, we followed the Hollywood crowd and had babies after 40. Thanks to starlets like Nicole Kidman, Tina Fey, Courteney Cox, and Halle Berry, no one thinks we are the old folks on the block with young kids in tow. Well, maybe they do, but we don’t know it.

I had intentions on returning to work after having my son. I was working in the Communications field. We had our daycare selected, but I just couldn’t sign the paperwork. At the time, I was not in a job that I loved with all my heart, and I would tell my husband every night that I didn’t want to go back to “that” job and put our son in daycare.

He crunched some financial numbers, and decided that my staying home would be the best thing for our family even though we hated to lose my salary. Truthfully, it was not the most cost-efficient thing for our family as is some cases,  because I still would have brought in income after daycare bills were paid. His mom stayed home with him so I think that was in my favor and frankly, we felt it was the best thing for our child. I’m so glad we took a leap of faith. It’s worked out well for us.

There was also a little silver lining in this story, too. My company decided they needed me on contract and allowed me to work about twenty hours a week for several years. That was a great deal! Unfortunately, due to budget cuts, my contract was cut shortly before becoming pregnant with my daughter. I really miss that extra income! We definitely have to budget a lot more now, especially with two children.

I have the saying that everyday is like a Monday when you are a stay-at-home mom. The days, even though you don’t have to get dressed right away or be somewhere at a certain time except when your children are in preschool, can seem sort of the same day-after-day, but not necessarily in a bad way.  There’s never a day off or even a few minutes of alone time unless you lock yourself in a closet. I’m kidding, of course!

My youngest child will easily find me on the computer and pester me until I get off. It’s also hard to do anything productive with young children around. Folding laundry could be compared to climbing Mount Kilimanjaro. I rarely talk to other moms on the phone and when I do, the conversation is about 30 seconds because one of us will have to stop and say, “Will you please stop it, I’m on the phone!”  The noise continues on both of our ends so we just hang up.

As a parent, I don’t have to tell you that raising children is a hard job. You already know that, and staying home with them has tons of perks, but there are challenges, too. It’s probably the most mentally draining job I’ve ever encountered. I used to think my time in a TV newsroom was the most stressful phase in my life, but covering hurricanes and death penalty cases are nothing compared to the battling the wills of a toddler and preschoolers even if they are cute.

Thanks to e-mail, Facebook, and playgroups, I’ve not missed going into an office to interact with people nor have I missed office politics. However, I’m not going to lie! I have missed having a sitter for two or three hours a couple of times a week when I used to contract work. The sitter gave me a much-needed child free break even though I was working.

I jokingly say it’s great to be a stay-at-home mom because you can go out to lunch, and shop around town without having to get back to the office. Unfortunately, the last time I checked, I was paid $0 dollars a year for my job so I’m not exactly the best customer for those cute, little shops and lunch places. According to MSN Money, my stay-at-home salary would be over six figures if I did receive a paycheck. I like the sound of that!  You can make that check out to Leigh Powell Hines!   Hey, I think that is worth it for living with your boss 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, don’t you? Perhaps then I would have some money for a sitter so I could sneak away and devote more time to the Hines-Sight Blog.

I hope you visit me there, friend me on Facebook, and I thank you for spending some time with me today on Karen-At-Home.


  1. Thanks for the opportunity to be part of your blog.

  2. I have to agree. I think Leigh is the nicest blogger I have "met" online, as well. I love that she is honest about what it's like raising kids. They are great but can be challenging. It's refreshing to look at her blog and see her kids act just like mine sometimes. Like kids. ;-)

  3. Mandi, thank you! Such a nice thing to say.


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